THE ACRONYMS OF INTIMACY: HOW TO NAVIGATE MODERN INTIMACY
We love our acronyms. We love to invent and modify our vocabulary. The colloquial becomes colloquial, and it seems as if every generation tries to define themselves through their own developed vernacular.
Letters Don’t Make Love. People Do.
I used the term “make love.” It happens from time to time. The urge to get close. Real close. Feel that bond. There are moments between people, not necessarily bonded for long but perhaps by intensity. The phrase has slipped out of my mouth from time to time.
Be careful, though with the starker side of intimacy. The need to classify and label.
It’s all too easy to label. GFE. PSE. DFK. A number of letter combinations that people use to describe intimacy from the conversation to bare-skin moments. Oh, how the alphabet can cheapen pleasure for pleasure’s sake. Call me old-fashioned but generalizing intimacy is like generalizing wine…its something to special and unique to brush with too wide of strokes.
Let’s Not and Say We Never Did. Oh, But We Did.
I think we have all been guilty of cheapening our own experiences. Its too easy not too. How do we now its special if we haven’t tasted the other side?
The awkwardness of a stranger, we have all had the sex-by-alphabet experience, and I am not referring to Sam Kinison. Its the called “the girlfriend experience” not “the girlfriend” for a reason. A mimic of out-of-body. A part of you is not there even in the conversation. It glides to easily, without scratching the surface. A part of you goes through the motions, deftly, of course and unsuspecting. Sex is sex after all, still good in the worst of times. Its why you just want it, and the “intimacy” is merely flesh meeting.
Acknowledge it. Own it. Then find the enrichment that puts it and you front and center. Its still good…
A Funny Thing Happened On The Way To The Bedroom…
Magic does happen. Stars do align. Good becomes fantastic. Unbelievable. The best part is that it can happen in minutes, and not necessarily taking years to unfold. I think they call it, “enchantment.” The enchantment often likes quietly in what is hidden, waiting for the right moment to blossom.
However, it doesn’t happen without openness and vulnerability. You give to receive. Though it may not be 1:1, your level of openness to the unknown, the ability to relax into our own insecurities and those unfamiliar situations, will allow the enchantment in. Let’s face it, we all need a little enchantment in our lives…