The simple slight curve of the back of stiletto.  You have to be careful and not get them to high because that just look gauche.  A classic 3.5 – 4″ is ideal.  After all, you want to be able to walk with confidence and grace.  At 42 years old, I am not walking in classic pumps any more.  I need heels with a bit more support so a Mary Jane or ankle strap is my preferred style.

Another factor to consider with high heels, is not just how you walk in them in public but the right way to wear them in bedroom.  We all know that once things heat up, you aren’t going to be super conscientious of your surroundings.  You are focused on your partner.  Yet a high heel in the bedroom can be dangerous and I don’t think I need to explain why. Clumsy is never a good look.

There is something sexy about being naked in heels and feeling someone else presses against you.  The architecture of the heels make you feel longer and gently wielding the shoe strategically against your partners body can be highly erotic too…

Music mood: AC/DC  “Back in Black”

Neurally yours,

a high heel xo