What is about kink and fetishes that is attractive? Is it the need to feel adventurous, deviant even? The dark part of our souls moves not into the light but a dimly lit room. In the beginning, it feels as if we have relinquished the chains of convention and sexuality. The secrets we carry are to be celebrated not buried.
A wiser man would say approach that which causes extreme emotion, with caution. Vigorous pursuit of a need is one thing, flaunting it is an different matter entirely. Those who have sky-dived, bungee-jumped, done anything on a extreme level understand that with a new found freedom is a thin layer of narcissism. You can’t say its wrong or right. It merely is what it is.
I sound like a broken record but I don’t think there is enough emphasis on the path to that ecstasy of realization. The awakening that the journey as much as it is cliche, holds greater value than the destination. That path is clearly not a straight line nor will it always be a smoothly paved one.
It is sometimes those few awkward moments or near stumbles that create a more memorable intimacy. Who says the hardest slap or the securest knot makes the most impact?
Music mood: DJ Shadow ” Systematic”
50 shadows xo