I thought it would be fun to start off the month of December with a bit of whimsy.

Often I am asked, “what is in your toy bag?”  I find this amusing because, I’m not huge fan of keeping a lot of toys and my tastes, since I starting experiment with different toys, has naturally changed.

There are the essentials.  You must have superior lube.  I prefer the Pjur brand.  It is pricey but you get what you pay for and any exit strategy need its due diligence to be successful.  Next on the list, massage oil.  I prefer Jimmy Jane candles because they not only smell wonderful but they create ambience and the oil feels wonderfully comforting to the skin.

The tease and denial are an intricate part of creating a sensual experience so a soft feather, fan or fur-lined implement can do wonders for preparing and warming up those limbs.

Don’t forget the senses.   The best part of tease and denial is  consensually taking away a sense.  You can get creative by using a stocking or scarf to remove touch, sight or taste.  A feather, is a wonderful tool to use as “aftercare.”

An added bonus are vibrators and/or cock rings.   These toys are not necessary but will  serve to increase your sexual confidence and guarantee a stunning evening, in more ways than one

It is just as important to recognize that our very own body parts can do an even better job of setting the right mood. Creativity is key in creating that sensual connection with your partner and it should not be overly complicated.

As a footnote, it goes without saying that whenever you play, safety comes first, so gloves and condoms are important.

And remember… like ice cram, even bad sex still is great.

Music mood:  Van Morrison ” Sweet Thing”

Neurally yours,

Dr. O xo