On Saturday, I spent all day in Philadelphia at an Edge Play Intensive taught by Eric Pride, an experienced Master who runs a slave household with his wife in NYC. I was v. excited about this class because lately I have been in a bit of a kinky rut. I have been in this lifestyle for almost 6 years and have done a lot but lately, my growth has hit a bit of a plateau, which I know is natural. The challenge is to pull yourself out of it…so naturally an intensive combined with a few play dates was just what was needed.
The Intensive was well worth it because it wasn’t a lecture format, it was for advanced players and was 95% interactive. My partner was a girl, who unfortunately was not bi but still a lot of fun to work with.
One of the greatest lessons I was reminded of is the significance of contrast. Brutality v. sensuality. Fear v. Safety. This seems obvious and I do incorporate this often into my play but probably not as often as I should or would like to. Each play date, after all is a bespoke experience. The body chemistry and personality are different, which influences how a scene can go.
I can’t wait to use what I learned about knife play with my next play date….
Recently, I played with someone for the first time and he put a leather belt around my neck and choked me while my holes were penetrated and my magic wand played. It was clear he knew what he was doing and I had the most intense orgasm I have ever had in my entire life. That v. same evening I decided to surprise my other date out for drinks at whiskey bar wearing 4 clothespins on my labia. When I whispered in his ear what I was up to….I delighted in how red his face went. The night only got better from there…
Now, I want to get more physical. Primal. At the intensive, I learned take-down techniques and some creative psychological tricks that work in mind-fuck and interrogation scenarios. I want my bondage to be kinetic in energy. Please tie me up and don’t just have me lay there. Let my freshly painted toes hang over the precipice. I trust you completely. I want to be shaken and stirred like a cocktail, then I want to be sipped and appreciated for the dynamic, surprising concoction that I am.
Music mood: “The district” – Andrew Bayer (because both the scenes I mentioned happened in DC)
your kinky courtesan xx