I recently discovered a movement called The Good Men Project, which aims to foster conversation starters about modern manhood. In general I find their articles thought-provoking and refreshing in both content and perspective. They do tackle topics that are unpopular and not particularly sexy but still critical to the moral fibre of our society.
One article receiving alot of attention, “31 Reasons Why Men Don’t Cheat.” This article was written in response to the Huffington Post piece, ” Why Do Men Cheat: 26 Reasons Guys Cheat, According to Men”.
In my humble opinion, the article oversimplified complex issues of monogomy, love, trust and marriage. I was married once. I also cheated on my husband. I didn’t cheat because of a bad sex life or because I didn’t love him or because I didn’t find him attractive. I cheated simply because I knew my life was going in a different direction and I didn’t know how to address it with my partner. I didn’t feel connected to him anymore. The most honest thing I did? Was force myself to get caught. We all make choices in life. We are responsible for the choices we make. Full stop. I now choose to live a life of non-monogamy.
The point is that nothing is black and white. Cheating on your partner doesn’t make you bad person. It doesn’t mean you love your children or your wife/husband any less. Who said loyalty and being faithful have to be mutually exclusive? People have all kinds of reasons for why they make choose to operate outside of the ‘social norm’. Frankly, I’m not even going to try and hypothesize as to why.
I have yet to meet another human who is infallible. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.