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What The Masters Teaches You About Being a slave

This weekend I enjoyed watching the 2013 Masters Tournament with friends and strangers.  One reason that I love the game of golf is because it is a gentleman’s game. A game played with integrity and one that relies much more on discipline and practice than pure skill and natural talent.  It got me thinking about my path as a slave and the life lessons that can be learned from this gentleman’s sport…

Any golfer from Greg Norman to Jack Nicklaus to Adam Scott will tell you that their focus is just on what is in front of them.  When they are on the course their mind is laser-focused on that hole, not worried about the next or the 18th.  A slave, as owned property, doesn’t let themselves get overwhelmed and rather takes each task separately, unemotionally, realizing that completing it will make their Master happy.

What about unowned slaves? As one myself, I am not without the struggle of  feeling that some part of you is “missing” without a Master there to guide, discipline and punish/reward.  However,  much like in the game of golf, being a slave is more about the journey than it is about sinking the final putt.   It is the practice and the discovery that makes the journey invigorating and the destination of ownership that much sweeter.


Golf is a gentleman’s sport.  A game played with integrity.   Do I think Tiger Woods should of disqualified himself after signing off on the score card? Yes, I do.  He finished in 4th and nobody noticed in the end.  He would have won more credibility by taking the honorable route.  If you talk to any slave, integrity is a cornerstone to our belief system.  That belief system indeed skews kinky but adherence to an honor system is the only way to serve.  The road is long and arduous and we will take the road that will get us to what needs to be accomplished even if that is the long and arduous one.

What I loved about watching the Masters is that it was anyone’s match.  Victory was for the taking.  There were so many factors  – weather, skill, wind direction,  concentration..There was no sure thing.  A slave is often an underdog going into tasks and engineered situations.  Similarly, it relies on concentration, confidence, will, and of course  ” the element” to successfully carry out what needs to get done.  A slave may go in as the underdog but it will come out as the victor.

Support systems are key.  Australia had never won the Masters.  Greg Norman came close but there was an entire continent of people rooting for Jason Day and Adam Scott, the two players to bring home the victor’s spoils and make the motherland proud.  There was a sense of  patriotic pride that you didn’t feel from anywhere else.  We know Adam Scott played his heart out and to that end, proved it by winning in sudden death.  Slaves are their best when they have the right support systems as well.   They understand as property their Master is their to guide, not support.  It is key to have a strong base of people who understand and are empathetic to your position in life because life as a slave is certainly unique and v.special.

Golf is a mental game that doesn’t need a ton of gifted athletic talent to be good as much as it requires practice and discipline.  World-class golfers like Greg Norman and Jack Nicklaus started playing later in life ( in their early teens), and while they were athletically inclined, had mentors and coaches that help shape their physical and mental game.  The same case can be made for a slave – we are made not born.  Yes, it takes someone extra special to bring out the best in us.  We also rely on strong supports systems in other like-minded people and professionals that are skilled in the knowledge of power exchange.  The slave in us is harvested through openness and vulnerability rooted in strong self-identity and the discipline to be patient and consistent.

Most importantly though, is passion.   I love playing the game of golf and I love being a slave.

Yours truly,

your kinky courtesan xx

I'm a writer and a lover not a fighter, except if I really want something.


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