I know that most of the guys that read this blog are true gentleman who understand the nuances of companionship and that it is a luxury not a right.
The reality is that I turn away 40 – 50% of the calls I receive because the gentleman can not provide a reference or they are not willing to provide employment info. Perhaps they are watching too many hollywood movies but the reality is most GOOD companions are far too busy and professional to really care what you do for a living. Safety, discretion, transparency, trust -THAT is what makes the experience a whole lot smoother and nicer.
It is part of our ethos to be non-judgmental and discreet. I try to be v. clear with the individuals I speak to what is necessary to see each other and without making it sound as if they are signing their life away…lol As I said before, it is important to realize that the screening process is in place for mutual protection and safety and that it is. Full stop. Just like the hobbyists, we have sites that allow us to flag time wasters, dangerous men and men who refuse to screen and will give us a hard time about it. You don’t want to be listed there.
What is nice, is when a guy says that he appreciates and respects the screening process because then he knows that you are a true professional. As far as I am concerned, if a man is willing to divulge personal information, even if it is a provider reference, at least it shows he is invested and there is a less likelihood that I will get stood up.
I always find a way to connect with people, when we part ways, I go back to my normal routine.
Like any other vice, time with a companion is a luxury and an opportunity for a gentleman to spoil himself. The screening process ensures that we are both comfortable and trusting, which makes for a hot, sexy time….